South India trip

 

Dosti jitna chota shabd, utna hi bada ehsas hai. Jitna isko samajhane ki koshish karo utna hi har daffa hairan kar deta hai. Badi alag kism ki prajati hoti hai ink logo ki, kahi par bhi, kisi bhi haal me(genrally jhalle), kisi bhi roop me mil jate hai, bas der hai to unko pehchanne ki. Mere pass bhi hai aise hi kuch namune, bhot khass hai, dil k bhot pass hai, ha ab jyada baat nahi hoti par pta hai jab bhi jarurat hogi, they will be there always. Me bhi shayad unnmese ek namuna hu. Har kisi k sath alag type ki dosti hai, alag rishta hai. To Aisa hi kuch rishte ke bharose maine apna baki soutn india trip shuru kiya. To ab apna pehla din banglore me bitane ke baad, mujhko salem jana tha apni dost ke ghar. 

Ek din akele bitane ke baad ek alag sa hi confidence tha ki ab to kahi bhi, kaise bhi chali jaungi. Idhar udhar dekha, fir breakfast krke, apne frn k liye mithai lene ki koshish krne ke baad m pohoch gyi bus stand. Ab pohoch to gayi par jana kha hai samjh nahi aa rha, kaunsi wali bus meri hai, kis jagah se milegi thoda confusing tha aur fir tamil bhi itni hi aati thi ki bas namaste bol saku (Vanakam), but meri frn pura time mere sath phone par mujhko guide kar rahi thi aur usne driver as well as conductor se baat bhi ki, aur thode hi ghanto me mai salem pohoch gayi. EK chota sa sheher, ekdam meri city jaisa, dur chote pahad, aur barsat ka mausam, bhot acha tha aur apni frn aur uske papa ko dekh kar aur bhi acha lag rha tha. It was such a pleasant welcome, tha to mere sheher jaisa hi par thoda alag, alag alag rang ke ghar, har ghar k bhar bani hui rangoli (jo mujhko lagta tha painted hai), red color ke kele, bhot sare coconut, mogre k phool balo m lagai hui aunties, lungi pehne hue uncle, (hahahaha) Sab alag tha fir bhi apna sa. Ye sab dekhte dekhte m apni friend ke ghar pohich gayi. Mai amma, appa se mili thi pehle bhi par aaj thoda alag lag rha tha aur bhot acha bhi. Hum ghar par teen din tak rahe kyuki mereko urgent kuch kaam aa gya tha, still my frn and her parents managed to entertain me, Appa got local cold drink, bhajji, banana pakora , amma made me world's best rasam, now also i miss it, dad use to make coffee daily for us and my frn use to make dosa whenever i tell her that i am hungry (literally anytime like 2 A.M. also). Appa got us everything with the thought of introducing south india to me as i was new to the place, he was trying to get all good things but who knew that i will be staying there for long time, longer than i planned. After staying for 3 days and finishing my work, we planned to go out of the house to see near by places, kovil (temple), a friend's place ( meri dost ki dost), we even went to a restaurant where we had lots of food. We decided to stay for one more day at home and then start for kerala. we planned to go and buy a kanchipuram saree for my mom as a sovenier as she is very fond of it and welcomed our one more friend from college who stays in tamil nadu only but very far from salem. It was a nice day and a reunioun after 3 months of finishing M.Tech.

To ab mera trip shuru hone wala tha, agle hi din hum kerala ki liye nikal gaye. Trip ki shuruat me hi maine thoda coconut milk faila diya (hahahaha), literally faila diya, appam par. Ratse me jab hum breakfast k liye ruke to nayi dish khayi jiska naam tha appam. Friend ke mana karne ke bavajud order to kar liya par ab samajh nahi aa rha tha isko khate kaise hai, wo ek round bowl jaisa kuch tha jiske sath me white color ka koi liquid katori me diya hua tha. Meri shakal dekh kar meri friend ne bola, mana kiya tha na mangane ko, mai bhi jiddi, bola yai khaungi. Dusri frined ne btaya ki ye coconut milk hai, isko appam me dal kar khate hai (dekha kha tha na fala diya coconut milk). wo itna meetha tha ki samjh nahi aa rha tha breakfast hai khane k baad khane wali sweet dish. Chalo jaise taise kar ke kha liya, gussai hui frn ko merepe taras aaya aur usne apna dosa bhi share kar liya. I had best memories of food in kerala. See kerala is very nice except food, atleast mere liye, aur ye to sirf shuruat thi. 

Kyuki salem tamil nadu aur kerala ke border ke pass hi tha, to hume jyada time nahi laga ur hum kerala pohoch gaye, waha par appa ne home stay book kiya hua tha. "wow" it was so good, food was homemade and awesome. Hot drinking water, cold weather plus we three friends, we didnt do anything different, but it was so awesome, wai gupshup, college ki baate, hindi tamil ki ladai. Aur kya chahiye jinee k lye, bas 2 dost. 

Kerala is so awesome, so beautiful and so full of nature, once u go there, for sure u will fall in love with it. We went to so many places such as periyar national park and all other places. It was so beautiful, so good weather, har waqt barish, meri frns aur unka camera, meri cameraman cum friend, meri photos, pagalpanti wale poses, dosa, bandar, and jeera water. Sab bohot acha tha, sab sai cha rha tha except of "parota and veg kurma" made in coconunt milk. Barish ki wajah se vegetarian options kam the aur ye unme se best option. You will not belive maine 2 din subh sham wai khaya aur wo din hai aur aaj ka din maine kabhi kurma dubara taste nahi kiya. see point ye hai ki ek to m north indian upar se vegetarian, kasam se rone hi lagi thi mai, par meri dost as always was there to save me dosa. Do din kurma aur dilkhush jagah pe bitane k baad fir hum munnar ki aur chale gaye, hum ratse me hi the ki bhaad (flood) ki condition ho gayi. Wow, ye to shayad koi bhi plan nahi karta, maine bhi nahi socha tha par kyuki maine aaj tak flood nahi dekha tha and i know dekhne ki cheez bhi nahi hai, par wo daar, wo pareshani, har ratsa pani me duba hua, car band hone ka khatra, salem wapis na pohochpane ka khauf, sab bhot alag tha. Hum jis bhi ratse pe ja rhae the, thodi der me hi wha pura pani bhar ja raha tha, mujhko chod kar sab pareshan the, appa aur amma sabse jyada kyuki humari responsibility bhi unke upar thi, par me to apni hi dhun m mast, itna sara pani dekh kar khush ho rahi thi (so stupid of me). Kisi traha, ratsa badal badal kar, hum kerala ki baadh se nikal kar tamil nadu me aa gaye, Safe and sound. Main to mast kharate maar kar so rahi thi, baki sab preshan, thoda flood ki wajah se, thoda travelling aur hectic hone ki wajah se. Chalo jo bhi tha, ab jaise taise hum ghar pohochne wale the. Ab aage kya karna hai ye sochna baki tha, issse pehle m kuch soch pati, tabhi hi ratse me mere ek aur dost ka phone aa gya jine meri duniya palat di.

Ek M.Tech ka batchmmate hai mera, jhalla sa jo hamra placememnt coordinator bhi tha, to mai usko sara time pareshan karti rhati thi ki kai job dilwa, kai job dilwa. Thode dino pehle hi mujhko pta chala tha ki wo kisi chennai ki company me kaam kar rha hai, to usko maine phone karke majak me bola ki "kya bhai, khudki job lga li, hmara kya hoga." Iss baat ka jawab dene ke liye uss din wapis aate hue uska call aaya. Phone uthane pe bola ki meri comapny me vacancy hai, apply karle agar chennai me rhna sai lage to. Ok i was not prepared for it yet. mai to bhot halke me sab le rahi thi ki abhi to bhot ghumenge fir main aram se bangalore jake kisi pg me rahungi, dar dar thokre kha kar job dhundingi, par ye kya, it was like a shock. Usne btaya ki abhi 2 months k contract par hai, try karle agar acha laga to theek warna chod dena. Acha aur bura lagne se pehle mujhko chennai jake test dena tha aur interview wagera sab clear karna tha, to usko maine pucha ki kab aa jau, to bola ki kal hi aaja, better rahega. Ok, i was thinking of thinking about it later, par isne to sochne ka mauka hi nahi diya aur bola kal hi aa ja, ab iss duvidha me thi main ki agar nahi gayi to aage se usko job k liye bhi nahi bol paungi aur upar se job profile bhi sai lag rha tha, to socha kya pta yai sai ho par still i was confused and not sure. Maine apni dosto ko btaya to unhone bola, u should give a try, agar nahi hua to bhi experience ho jaega, u should decide about joining later, once u clear it. Abhi wo jo bol rahe the sai to lag rha tha par daar bhi lag rha tha. Abhi tak banglore me bhai tha, salem me dost par chennai, ye to mere plan me tha hi nahi, ab iska kaise, kab aur kya karu, kuch bhi samjh nahi aa rha tha. Ek bar laga ki mere dost mujhse pareshan ho gaye hai, isiliye jane ko bol rahe hai. Par fir laga , nahi, mere bhale ke liye hi bol rahe hai. Ab ghar pohoch gaye, naha liya, kha bhi liya par ab ek ajeeb si confusion hai mere dilo dimag me, kya main kar paungi, kya mai rha paungi, papa ne bhi mna kiya bolte koi future nahi hai, wha kaise rahegi and all, unn sabko to main samjha leti agar main khud kuch samjh pati. Itna socha ki soch soch kar ghutno me dard ho gya (hahahaha, jsut kidding) aur soch to aise rahi thi ki jaise job mil gayi hai. Jab main khud kuch decide nahi kar ati tomin apna decision duniya pe chod deti hu, matlab apne dosto aur well wishers se discuss karti hu kya karna chahiye. Jisne job ka btaya tha usse baat ki, baki saab se baat ki abhi bhi kuch samjh nahi aa rha tha, fir maine bhramaastra nikala aur maine apni mummy se baat ki, she is ultimate, meer har dukh duvidha aur dard ka ilaj hai wo aurat (hahahha), unko pucha kya karu to bolti hai, "mai kya btau kya karna hai, tu khud decide kar ki tune apni life me kya karna hai, humne tumko iss layak bna diya hai ki tum apne decision khud le sako", sunke thoda dhakka laga, pta hai thodi kadak hai par help jarur karengi (akhir maa ksiki hai) isiliye main chup rahi. After a pause she told, why are u scared, tu job karne hi wali thi na banglore me, wha kaun hota sath, kisike bharose karna ka plan tha, nahi na, kyu itni pareshan hai, pehle try to kar, agar mil jati hai, tab badme sochna." It hit me hard, my mom is always like this, my sole supporter, chahe ho jaye hamesha mere sath khadi hai. After a long discussion, and conversation with my dad, i decided ki pehle interview dene jate hai, baki ka baad me dkhenge (against my dad's wish). He also gives me confidence by denying to it, agar uunhone mana kar diya to ab pakka karna hai. He has his own reasons, hamesha bacho ko apne pass rakhna chahte hai, kabhi dur nahi bhejna chahte, (for both of us), to darte hai shayad, par maine wahi karna hai jo unhone mana kiy hai. uffff,, after so much of brain stormig, meri frn aur maine milkar chennai me hotel book kiya, near my office, fir bus ticket bhi book ki. Jab insan mentally prepared hota hai to physical preparartions to bas formality ki trah hoti hai. Miane apna sara saman pack kiya, jo bhi jarurat ka tha,apne sare documents rakhe, photocopies, sab pack kiya. Amma appan concerned the ki main kaise akeli jaungi kya karungi, wo bol rhe the bhai ko bulane ko par unko kaise btati ki usse ladai ho rakhi hai, to aine unko iss point se distract karne ke liye uss friend k phone kiya jisne job ka btaya tha, usko bola agar wo bus stand lene aa sake to acha rahega. Bhaisahab ne pehle to mana kar diya (how rude of him) fir baad me bola chal theek hai, mai aa jaunga. Chalo ab sab thoda sorted lag rha tha, amma appa ki bhi pareshani dur ho gayi, Ab bas bacha tha to test and interview clear karna. Saman le kar bus mai baith gayi. Dekho hamra dimag kitna sochta hai na, pehle ye soch kar pareshan thi ki interview k liye jau ya nahi, apna to kara kara baki sabka bhi dimag khrab kar diya, aur ab ye soch kar pareshan thi ki itni discussion aur jaado jehed ke baad mera test aur interview clear nahi hua to mai kya karungi. Hai ram !!!! itna dimag gumane ke baad apni ek purani freind ka dilogue yad aaya, jab kuch samjh na aaye ya kuch bhi tumhare hatho me naho  to tension mat lo, sleep lo, aur fir maine waise hi kiya  aur subh subh chennai pohoch gayi.  Dost ne hotel drop kiya aur ratse me office bhi dikha diya aur btaya ki kisse ja kar milna hai. Ok, mai ready bhi thi upar se complementary breakfast bhi tha. Khush thi mai, pta hai kya, har choti choti cheez se hi life me confidence aata hai, aur mai to uss mode me thi jo kisi bhi cheez ya kahi se bhi confidence le le. Ab office to phoch gayi par ek ajeeb si feeling thi kyuki iss janam me to main isse pehle kabhi kisi office me job k liye nahi gayi thi, bhot ajeeb lag rha tha, upar se weekend tha, pura office khali, HR thi waha par, shayad unko ehsas ho gaya tha mere darr ka to mujhko comfort karne ke liye unhone mujhko chai offer ki aur jyada comfortable na ho jau isiiye test bhi de diya. Mujhko lagta hi ki mai jyada sochti hu par kya karu aisi hi hu aur isi wajah se i was worried ki ye sab kya ho raha hai, sai hai bhi ya nahi, kya hoga ye sab mere dimag me chal rha tha, itna ki chai lover ko chai bhi besawad lag rahi thi. Test dekh kar thoda confidence aaya, ki chalo kuch to aata hai, sab khatam kiya aur HR ne btaya ki "jab iska result aa jaega tab interview hoga. Ek test aur hai jo aap room par se hi kar sakte ho", theek hai bolkar mai wapis hotel aa gayi. 

AB kya karu, fir ek awaj ayi , mere dil ki awaj thi, wo bol raha tha dekh: wai mulayam bistar, mast Ac, zomato, laptop aur internet, bhul gayi tu apna sapna jo M.Tech me apne dosto ko bolti thi, "yaar bas maan kar rha hai ek hotel room book karu, mast Ac chalau aur padi rahu", aaj wo sapna tere samne,  tera intazar kar raha hai, ja aaj usko firse sakar kar le. Saturday tha, maine hotel monday tak book kiya hua tha, ye soch kar monday tak pta chal gya aur ho gya to interview de kar hi wapis chali jaungi (typical but smart baniya). Ab maine movies dekhni shuru ki,  agli bar jab hosh sambhala to pure 2 din ho chuke the. Bas mai, mera laptop ac aur bhar ka khana, full too aish mari, aur pta hi nahi chala ki ye do din kab beet gaye, aur time bhi beet jata agar papa ne daat nahi mari hoti, unhone bola ab to room se nikal kai ho kar aa, to laga sai kha rahe hai. Ab to mere me itna josh tha jaise maine koi jang fatah kar li ho, mera dimag ab dialogue mar rha tha: haiiiii chennai kya ab to mai kahi bhi ja sakti hu, auto book karo aur chale jao, kya hi frk padta hai. Itne confidence ke sath maine uthaya google aur search kiya, places to visit in chennai aur fir man bna kar main marina beach aur kapaleeshwarar temple ghum kar aayi. Beach was so nice, calm, i had pani puri, kya karu bhot chatori hu, pani puri bhot passand hai mujhe. Jab next day bhi kuch pta nahi chala to mai frn ke ghar aa gayi salem me. Test ke baad itna confience tha ki clear to ho jaega ab tha to sirf interview. AB kitne din dost ke pass rehti aur usko pareshan karti, maine apna mann bna liya th banglore jane ka rakhi bhi aa rahi thi. Itne me mere mummy papa ne mil kar mere bhai ko samjhane ki koshish ki, aur wo thoda convince ho gya, rakhi par mujhko apne ghar aane dene ko. To main apna sara saman pack kiya aur banglore aa gayi. Socha agar chennai wali job ka kuch hota hai to theek warna rakhi ke baad apne liye pg dhundu aur job ki talash shuru kar du. Firse hotel book kiya kyuki mere bhai sahab ne sirf 2 ghante ke liye ha ki thi, waha ruku thoda time aur fir rakhi bandh kar wapis chali jau. Shayad jo bhai kar rha tha sai bhi tha aur jaruri bhi, kyuki isne mujhko independent hona sikhaya, kafi kuch sikhne ko mila iski wajah se warna shayad main kabhi itna confidence apne andar la hi nahi pati. Papa abhi bhi iss baat se khafa the ki main kyu is job me interested hu, meri field se bhi alag hai, chennai me bhi hai, still ab mujhko lag rha tha ki me khud ke liye kuch kar sakti hu. Mera test clear hua aur maine wo job join karli. Pata hai intni khus thi ki main pehle hi din apna bevkoof bnwa liya, mera office second flooe pe hai aur first floor wale office me ghuss gayi, maje se ja rahi hu, ek bar dimag me aaya apna office to nahi lag rha, log bhi waise nahi lag rahe, socha tu pagal hai, weekend tha, tune sirf 2 ya 4 logo ko dekha hoga, abhi kaise mil jaenge wo log aur apni dhun me , chere pe badi si muskan le kar chali gayi. Sab log mujhko ghoor bhi rahe the aur admi ne himmat juta kar mujhse puch hi liya, kaha jana hai? Mai samjahdhar , maine bola office (hahhahaha), bolte kause office , fir maine apni company ka naam btaya to unhone bola aap galat floor pe aa gayi hai (ohh my god) jitni badi smile thi pehle mere chere pe ab usse bhi badi majak ban gayi thi, fir socha chod, kisne dekha hai aur waise bi tere office walo ko to nahi pta na, kya hi fark padta hai. To aisa hua mera South India trip, abhi tak i am working for that company, so my south india trip is still on. Jab bhi koi merse ya meri mummy se puchta hai ki chennai kaise job lagi to bas yai bolte hai ghumne gayi thi lag gayi. Even office me bhi sab hairan the, main apne ghar wapis diwali par gayi aur apna baki ka saman le kar aayi. 

In sab experience se yahi seekha, kitna hi plan karlo, kuch bhi karlo hona wai hai jo apko nahi pata, so be ready and prepared always, kabhi bhi kuch bhi ho sakta hai, koi bhi opportunity apke darwaje par dastakhat de sakti hai, Par darwaja khol kar usko welcome to humko hi karna hai. Agar main dar kar job ke liye apply nahi kar rah hoti to pta nahi abhi kha par hoti mai. Ab chennai bhi apna sa lagta hai, different hai, par acha hai. Ab chennai bhi ghar se utna hi dur lagta hai jitna ki banglore. So be positive, be spontaneous aur apne dosto ko kabhi mat bhulo.