Chiraiya

 kya karu aisa ki mere papa mujhse pyar kare, meri izzat kare, kuch samjah nahi aata. Kai bar sochti hu mai ki maine aisa kya kiya hai ki mujhko har baat ki saja milti hai, mere kuch bhi bolne pe kyu itna gussa atta hai unko, kyu meri sidhi si baat bardast nahi hoti. Meri kya galti hai, kya gunah, bachpan se is sawal ka jawab dhund rahi hu, rab jane kab mai samjh paungi ya fir shayad mai samjhana hi nahi chahti. Nahi hota mujhse bardast, nahi sehan kar pati mai, itna gussa bhara hai mere andar iss baat ko leke ki jaise hi wo mere sath kuch karte hai mai chilla padti hu, ulta seedha bolti hu. Sabko meri galti dikhti hai par koi ye nahi sochta ki kaha se aaya itna gussa, kyu isse bardasht nahi hota. Chillane ke baad mai khud ro padti hu aur itna roti hu ki hisab nahi, jo hua uss wajah se nahi par ye soch soch kar ki ek insan kaise apne khud ke bache ke sath aisa kar sakta hai wo bhi sirf iss wajah se ki wo ladki hai. Rone ke baad jab dil halka hota hai to sochti hu kyu hu mai itni ziddi, kyu nahi bardast kar leti, duniya ki har ek ladki karti hai to mere ander wo bardast karne ki shakti kyu nahi aati. Kyu mai ladti hu aur ladne ke chakkar me unse ulta bolti hu, jitni bar bhi samjhau apne apko nahi samjh pati, akhir galti hi kya hai meri. Bahari duniya ko dekhti hu to lagta hai ki kya kuch nahi hota ladkio ke sath duniya me, chalo kam se kam mere sath wo to nahi hua, par fir sochti hu kya sirf atyachar bhot bada ho tabhi atyachar kehelata hai warna nahi, kya sirf physical torture hi torture hai mental nahi. Chota ho ya bada, galat kam to galat hi hai. Chahe unhone mujhko padhya, likhaya aur itna bada kiya par agar wo meri kadar nahi kar sakte to ye galat nahi hai. Mai ye soch kar to chup nahi raha sakti ki baki ladkio ko to ye bhi mauka nahi milta. Agar unko mauka nahi dena galat hai to mauka dene ke bad bekadri karna bhi to galat hai. Bohot log mujhko samjhane ki koshish karte hai hai , mai khud bhi karti hu apne apko samjhane ki par nahi hota, nahi samjh ata ki kyu mere papa mujhse pyar nahi karte aur agar karte hai to dikhane se darte kyu hai, kyu wo itna vishvas mujhpe nahi dikhate jitna wo mere bhai pe karte hai, kyu wo meri izzat nahi kar sakte, kya ladki hona itna bada gunah hai, paap hai, shayad ha, tabhi to har ek ladki kisina kisi roop me isko bardast kar rahi. Kabhi meri naukari , kabhi meri shadi ki umar, kabhi shadi ka kharcha itna bada sawal aur kashmakash kyu ban jata hai. Bata chhavi kya jawab hai tere pass iska, ye bote hi meri dost gusse aur dukh ki wajah se ro padi. Usko rota hua dekh kar meri ankhe bhi bhar aayi aur aaye kyu na kya galati hai uski shayad yahi ki wo ek ladaki hai. Pata hai itna gussa aata hai mujhko jab bhi mai aisa kuch sunti hu ya apne ass pass dekhti hu. Itna bebas aur lchar pati hu mai apne apko, mera maan karta hai ki mai zor zor se chilau ki " ha hu mai ladki aur naaz hai mujhko iss baat par" tum sab bhi karo apne ass pass wali ladkio par, kadar karo unki. Aur pata hai sabse jyada gussa unn ladkio par aata hai jo ye sab chup chap bardast kar leti hai ye soch kar ki ye to har ghar me hota hai, itna to bardast karna hi padta hai. Nahi, galat hai agar har ghar me hota hai to wo sai nahi hai, har ghar ko badalna hoga, chup rahne se kuch nahi hoga, ladna hoga. Meri aisi baate sunkar kai ladkiya bolti hai ki humko bolne se kya hoga, kisi stage par ja kar bolo,, hahahaha, bhasan nahi hai, gunheghar tum khud ho jo apne sath hone wala bartav sehan kar rahi ho. Mat karo. Maine aaj tak ek bhi jagah nahi dekhi jaha par ye fark na hota ho. Chahe wo cororate ho, entertainement ho, koi bhi field ye har jagah hai, kisina kisis roop me jarur kiya jata hai. Bohot si Aurte dekhi hai jo din bhar bhara ka kam karne ke baad ghar sambhalti hai aur raat ko apne pati se mar khati hai, sara din mehnat majdoori karne ke baad sabki jalile jhelti hai, kitni bachiya hai jo padhna chahti hai par unko mauka nahi milta to padh nahi pati hai, kitne log hai jo apne ghar ki aurto ko peete hai, kitne log apne ghar ki bahuo ko dahej ke liya jala dete hai, par kya sirf ye atyachar hai aur baki cheeze nahi. Kya ye umeed kaarna ki sara din kaam karne ke baad wo apne pati aur bacho ko khana de, apna ghar sambhale ye galat nahi hai,: kya ye galat nahi hai ki beto ko pyar aur betiyo ko fatkar mile, kya ye galat nahi hai ki padha likha kar shadi kardo aur apne carrier ko bhul jao, kya ye galat nahi hai ki hum apni mummy se khane ki umeed karte hai, unhi se sari aashaye rakhte hai par papa ko kabhi nahi kahate khana bana de, kya har baat pe ladki ko tokna ki aise chalo, zor se mat haso galat nahi hai kya ye galat nahi hai ki hum apni ladkio ko ghar se bahar nahi jane dete aur beto ko awara gardi karne bhej dete hai, kya ye galat nahi hai ki agar aurat ghar sambhalti hai to wo kisi layak nahi hai, kya ye galat nahi hai ki shadi ke bad jo pati khe wai pehena,, kya ye galat nahi hai apni ladkio ko bolna ki ghar ke decision me dakhal na de, kya ye galat nahi hai ladko ko pehle khana dena aur ladki ko badme, kya apni beti ki graduation ke baad padhi ye soch kar rok dena jyada padh legi to itna pdha likha ladka shadi ke liya nahi milega, kya ye baat galat nahi hai, ghar ke decision bhai aur papa lenge ye baat galat nahi hai, apni beti se umeed karna ki wo hi maa ka hath bataye beta nahi, ye bhi galat hai. Hai galat, bilkul galat hai, chahe chote ho par ye bhi atyachar hai. Agar 1 lakh rupaye kamane wale ladke ki maa apne ghar ke bartan manj sakti hai to ek lakh rupaye kamane wala ladka kyu nahi. Kyu ladki ko apna carrier ki bali kabhi apne ghar walo ki wajah se, kabhi pati ki wajah se aur kabhi bacho ki wajah se deni padti hai, kisine pucha usse ki wo kya chahti hai, usko ky passand hai, nahi bas ek vakya bolna seekh liya ki aurte sehesheelta ki devi hoti hai aur iski add me aap kitna hi atya char karlo wo bardast kar legi aur karna bhi chahiye. Excuse me bhai sahab, kabhi apne humse pucha ki sehen karna chahte bhi hai ya nahi ya fir khud hi apni galtio ko chupane ke liye hume ek tag de diya, nahi chahiye, nahi karna sehen, kaunsa insan kahega ki haa bhai karo mujhpe atyachar, mai to bani hi isike liye hu, socho thoda. Aur jo log bolte hai ki ladki ka rape hua ya acid attack kyuki wo galat jagah pe thi, wo galat time pe bahar thi ya fir usne galat kapde pehne the , to bhai sahab galat uss ladki ke kapde , uska bhar hona nahi, galat apki soch hai warna 2 saal ki ladkio ke ghar em balatkar nahi ho rahe hote. Kuch log aur bhi mahan hai jo ye bolte hai ki agar meri ladki aise kam kare to mai usko zinda jala du, to uncle ji apne andar ke admi hone ke ghamand ko jalaiye, kyuki galat uska ladki hona nahi balki apka apne ladke ko galat cheezo pe sath dena hai. HUmko ladkio ko ghar ke andar band karne ki jarurat nahi par unko shaktishali banan hoga taki wo apne bachav ke liye apne bhai ka intazar na kare aur khud apne liye ladd sake. ladko ko ladkio ki izzat karna sikhana hoga, agar pati kam karke aaya hai to patni bhi, dono ko milkar karna chahiye, agar aurt bahar ja kar kam karna chahti hai to usko rokna nahi balki badhava dena chahiye. Kyu agar kabhi gar me ladki paida hoti hai to log kahate hai lakshmi hui, bolo durga paida hui hai jo apne khilaf atyacharo se khud ladegi, hum usko itna majboot aur kabil banaenge ki usko kisi ke sahare ki jarurat nahi pade. 

Aksar log bolte hai ki meri stories bohot lambi hoti hai par kya karu ye topic itna sensitive hai ki chahu to puri kitab likh dalu. Hum chahe kitne bhi modern ho jaye, atyachar hota hai ladkio par bas atyachar karne ka dhang badal jata hai. Kabhi ek second nikalo aur socho ki kab kaise aur kaha humne khud kisina kisi aurat pe atyachar kiy hai, chahe wo kisi bhi roop me ho. aur agar apko ehsas ho ki ha ajnae me hi kiya hai to please unko jake sorry bolo aur gaale laga lo. EK bar apne as pass wali aurto ko thodi izzat deke dekho wo khud hi apko apne sir ka taj bana legi. Mai ye nahi kaha rahi ki ladko ke sath kuch nahi hota ya unke sath kuch bura nahi hota par aap khud socho ki har waqt apko apno se hi ladna padta hai. Hum duniya se to tab ladenge jab apne khud ke ghar wale bahar walo ko mauka denge, i think nahi, to utho aur jao aur apni mummy, didi, bhabhi, dadi, bua, chachi, beti, ya dost jisko bhi jante ho usko sorry bolo aur thodi kadar karo unki, izzat karo. Waise hi duniya me bohot udasi chai hui hai par mai lecture nahi dena chahti par agar ek bhi insan ki soch ladkio ke prati badal pau to mai samjhungi ki mera janam lena safal ho gaya. 

Chiraiya nahi hu, baaz hu, udne to do ek baar, badlo se bhi upar pohoch ke dikhaungi.